I also found a step-by-step list here. The steps I find relevant are are:
- Create a personal inventory when coming out. "Take a personal inventory of your life. Write down any anger, resentments, fears and guilt that you may have about your existing life. Don't forget the positive characteristics that also make you who you are today. Once you've done that, list your life goals, priorities and the things that make you happy (getting married, having children, being single, enjoying nature, art, dancing, etc.). What you are identifying is what kind of gay person you want to be." Hmm ok, I guess that's what the blog is for. I guess I'll get to that in the next post. Am I taking this too literally? Oh well, it's something to do.
- Know that you are not alone. Basically. start networking. I guess that's what the blog is for too to some extent, also I've started posting on some online forums, and it is really comforting to find that my experiences are not unique.
- Tell family and friends you're gay when you're ready. Ho boy. This is the big tamale, right? There are times when I feel like I'll never have the cojones to do this, and there are other times where I feel like it won't be a big deal. I'm 29 and single, I'm pretty sure my parents and friends already suspect; there are times where I'm sure it will be a big relief to them. Eh, I go back and forth on this one. I know there are some unique challenges I face as someone coming out so late in life, but at the same time, I am financially independent now and I live alone, if it turns out my parents aren't so great with my new lifestyle, I can just say fuck 'em, right?
- Learn about gay love, relationships and sex. Oh wait, maybe this is the big tamale. As sure as I am that I'm gay, my relationship and sex experience with guys is close to zero. Umm, ok I think that's as much as I'm willing to share on the internet at this point.
Man do I love lists. I may just make it through this thing after all.