Sunday, February 8, 2009

The flood

So, two more today, it's starting to feel like this coming out thing is reaching a momentum, which is good, but kind of terrifying. I came out to an old high school friend who is also gay today, and he had some good advice, as well as was just a great sounding board for my weird fears and everything.

I also came out to my brother and his wife, which was also good. I hadn't really been anxious about them because they have always been super supportive, but it was still a little nerve wracking. They also gave me some advice on how they think I should approach the parents, which I'm still not sure about.

Other than that, at the advice of my gay high school friend (who is about my entire gay friend network at this point), I'm going to try signing up for a few of the free gay dating sites with headshots, and see how that goes. Any suggestions on which ones are good? The ones I was looking at were Gaydardate, OkCupid, and GayRomeo, based on the fact that they're all free and seem to be pretty established.

Hoping this isn't a huge disaster.


  1. I have yet to find a gay dating site that was intended to be anything but a quick hook up site. I have met a few friends through such sites (not that I hooked up with them), but in general I haven't found any of them to be all that great. Then again- I didn't really give them much of a try either... so my assessment may be ill-informed.

    Please let me know how it goes if you try them out.


  2. OkCupid has an odd sort of sense of humor to it. I signed up for it when I decided to come out to my friends for the first time (this post).

    I've yet to meet anyone I'd actually like to go out with -- no offense meant to *anyone* but they're all students here. That's all well and good if you're working on an MS or PhD, but I'd feel a little odd dating some guy who doesn't have an actual career yet. So far the blogging thing's introduced me to more cool people! Unfortunately none of them are local. ;-)