Saturday, May 23, 2009

Why I am not a top

The comments on my last post kind of got me thinking. I have topped a guy just once and I was terrible at it. I lasted about 30 seconds before I blew my load.

When it comes down to it, the expectations of a top are much higher. A top has to get it up, stay hard, perform right, for long enough (but not too long!). A bottom just has to have a clean ass, which is easier.

I guess I also just like someone to take charge.


  1. there must be a way for a bottom to make a top at ease during the deed. The bottom can also do more than have a clean ass but it is definitely #1

  2. The top may "take charge" but the bottom is the one in control (or should be, since it's his ass that's in danger of damage, if you're not careful).

    Really, though, making love is about sharing yourself with each other, no matter who's in what position.

    Topping and bottoming each have their good and bad points. In other words, don't decide you're strictly a bottom based on one topping experience. Versatility is a good thing, imo.

  3. I disagree, I think topping is much easier at least from personal experiences.