Monday, June 15, 2009

Leaps and bounds...

PokerFace and I saw Up on Thursday, and we normally only go on one date a week, but I got a text today to see if I wanted to see a movie with him, his gay co-worker, and his co-worker's boyfriend. This was clearly a relationship escalation. I really didn't know how to deal with something like this... But as much as I kind of want to be single, another part of me wants to give this relationship a shot, and to jump in with both feet. Plus, I was thinking- as long as I don't say I'm his "boyfriend" there's no expectation of exclusivity, so maybe I'm not closing off my options.

I ended up bailing on the movie itself, but meeting up with them for drinks and dinner after. It was actually super fun, his co-worker and his boyfriend were cute and really funny and we all had a good time. Then at one point when they were exchanging work anecdotes, it came out that apparently on Friday PokerFace had told co-workers that he had "a boyfriend" (that would be me, apparently). I don't think I let on how much that freaked me out at dinner, but it definitely was a little weird right? We've never had a conversation about that and he's telling his co-workers that I'm his boyfriend... I really think it's time we had a talk, although I really don't know what my message will be.


  1. Sounds to me, your doubt is more than just the sex. But I also say give the guy more of a chance. It seems like he genuinely likes you and that is often hard to find.


  2. that must of been a shock for you. i really do think you should talk to him about it. seems like it's going a bit quicker than you'd want.

  3. I'm in the same exact boat. I've met this guy. I like him as a friend, but only that. He's attracted me as more, to the point where he has a picture of me stored away in his iPhone to show people this guy that's (apparently) lit up his life.

    When I heard about that, it was a weird feeling. Flattering, but scary, at the same time.